Not strictly Forest but this, from Norwich City, is simply outstanding.
It's ok to not be OK.
Check in on those around you.
It's ok to not be OK.
Check in on those around you.
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It’s good to talk.
Go on, you know you want to.
Go on, you know you want to.
Barry
Where's me hammer?
Saw this earlier, so clever with a clear message.
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Ashley
Steve Chettle
Brilliant from Norwich that.
BryanRoy22
Ian Bowyer
That video sent a shiver down my spine.
Around 5 years ago there was a bloke in a local bar of mine who was so popular, smiley and chatty. I saw him on New Year's Eve out drinking. He was his usual bubbly self.
That night he did the unthinkable. Still shocks me to this day.
Around 5 years ago there was a bloke in a local bar of mine who was so popular, smiley and chatty. I saw him on New Year's Eve out drinking. He was his usual bubbly self.
That night he did the unthinkable. Still shocks me to this day.
DizzyBala
Jack Armstrong
I don't have any feelings about Norwich normally, but that video is class with what they've done.
I'd heard about it, decided to watch for myself then at the end, I was actually shocked and the video took on a whole new meaning on the second watch.
I'd heard about it, decided to watch for myself then at the end, I was actually shocked and the video took on a whole new meaning on the second watch.
Redemption
Chief Eye Roller
Genuine question...
How do you ask mates if they're OK if they're not showing the signs? If you're asking them and they're responding positively?
How do you really ask?
[Asking for a friend]
How do you ask mates if they're OK if they're not showing the signs? If you're asking them and they're responding positively?
How do you really ask?
[Asking for a friend]
Barry
Where's me hammer?
Im blunt with it, Mate of mine is absolutely prime candidate for it, wears his heart on his sleeve, nice house car job...32, married a year, two kids, missus a few months back just out the blue told him it's over..... he's devastated.
I've straight out told him, you are a prime candidate for this shit so before you do anything daft you ring me, and if I don't answer (signals shit where we are) you keep ringing me until I answer.
I've told him if he does do it and he ain't rang me when it's my time to go I'll find him in heaven and kick f*** out of him. He's a good lad and knows what I'm getting at.
We even watched the Norwich video together on Tuesday.
There's some snide painkillers that are knocking about at work and we even banned him from having them yesterday such is the concern.
One of my drivers did Iraq and Afghanistan with the army, him and his old pals were dropping like flies because of it.
How they deal with it is a meet up every two months for the weekend by hiring a massive House and no one dare miss it because they have a good laugh, says its what is keeping most of them going at times.
Talking helps
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REDDERS78
Jack Armstrong
Its a very awkward converstion for most blokes I think. One of my mates often asked If I'm okay and when I say yeah he always replies, "no, I mean are you REALLY okay" Ive actually been a bit offended by it in the past but I now realise he's only looking out for his mates, trying to break any barriers that may exisit. I think I should do it more often myself.
I guess everyone feels pressured in their own way but its definately hard for some blokes to talk about. I'm one of them myself, I often wake up at night worrying about ,my business, what If I lose everything, what about the kids, is the mrs happy. All the usual stuff that comes with being a father and wanting the best for your family. Its not hard to see why some people struggle with it. The mate in question is a nurse on A and E and he sees some absolutely horrific stuff. Im not sure I could take that home with me if I'm honest.
A problem shared is a problem halved, never a truer phrase was coined!
I guess everyone feels pressured in their own way but its definately hard for some blokes to talk about. I'm one of them myself, I often wake up at night worrying about ,my business, what If I lose everything, what about the kids, is the mrs happy. All the usual stuff that comes with being a father and wanting the best for your family. Its not hard to see why some people struggle with it. The mate in question is a nurse on A and E and he sees some absolutely horrific stuff. Im not sure I could take that home with me if I'm honest.
A problem shared is a problem halved, never a truer phrase was coined!
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Yeah, I know a few lads like that too.
Talk. Please, talk to someone. A friend, your GP, yourself in the mirror (to start with) or hell, talk on here, we are all willing to help.
Nobody should suffer on their own.
It‘s OK to not be OK, you know?
Bonfy177
LTLF MORON
You’re a canny bunch on here you lot 
It’s a hard one.
How many times a day do we ask / or are asked ‘How are you?’ It’s often a customary greeting and rarely is it meant as a real exploratory question?
Heard of the ‘always ask twice’?
When you’re feeling down or out of sorts or depressed and someone asks you how you are, do you really want to open up and tell them that you’re not ok? Of course not. Also, if you’re processing negative feelings and emotions then it’s not always possible to vocalise them to someone / anyone.
Be vigilant and watch people. Signs aren’t always obvious. Be alert and look out for small changes in personality, behaviour and language. There are often subtle signs and if you notice something unusual then that’s your moment to make an enquiry.
What’s on your mind? Tell me, what are you thinking? How do you feel about xyz? Anything to get them talking and even if they’re reluctant to talk about themselves they will still provide you with greater insight into their mental well-being.
And keep asking.
There’s such greater awareness now in society for mental health issues and more and more people are speaking out which is the only way.
How many times a day do we ask / or are asked ‘How are you?’ It’s often a customary greeting and rarely is it meant as a real exploratory question?
Heard of the ‘always ask twice’?
When you’re feeling down or out of sorts or depressed and someone asks you how you are, do you really want to open up and tell them that you’re not ok? Of course not. Also, if you’re processing negative feelings and emotions then it’s not always possible to vocalise them to someone / anyone.
Be vigilant and watch people. Signs aren’t always obvious. Be alert and look out for small changes in personality, behaviour and language. There are often subtle signs and if you notice something unusual then that’s your moment to make an enquiry.
What’s on your mind? Tell me, what are you thinking? How do you feel about xyz? Anything to get them talking and even if they’re reluctant to talk about themselves they will still provide you with greater insight into their mental well-being.
And keep asking.
There’s such greater awareness now in society for mental health issues and more and more people are speaking out which is the only way.
donny
Grenville Morris
I've been there. Still am. Daily.
Struggled with things mentally for most of my adult life. Had several breakdowns and found it difficult to talk about what I was experiencing and going through.
It took a colleague to basically flat out tell me I needed to talk. At that point, I was stood half over a railing and ready to jump 40 feet to whatever.
I reached out and made the shout for help after that, and was treated like shit by some people, which led to more issues, and a massive breakdown.
That was about 3 years ago.
Since then I've had to slow things down a lot. My doctor has been great, as have some mental health people, however, I've had to complain about some treatment, as the nurse basically told me I was talking shit, and that COVID had made more people think they were unwell mentally (this was witnessed by other people, who have also complained about it), she didn't say that I was one of those, but, the implication was completely that.
Theres a stigma around mental health issues, especially around males, and Norwich video the other day is a great way of highlighting this. However, I firmly believe that if I were female and younger, I would have received a completely different reception from mental health facilitators. But, as a fat, middle aged bloke, I have to fight my way.
My work has suffered, and I try to keep going, but, some days, I'm just mentally exhausted from trying to do a single thing, and can spend a day in bed. Its daft, but, Mary Earps earlier this year summed up how I feel with her FIFA speech "Sometimes success looks like this, collecting trophies, sometimes it's just waking up and putting one step in front of the other."
Struggled with things mentally for most of my adult life. Had several breakdowns and found it difficult to talk about what I was experiencing and going through.
It took a colleague to basically flat out tell me I needed to talk. At that point, I was stood half over a railing and ready to jump 40 feet to whatever.
I reached out and made the shout for help after that, and was treated like shit by some people, which led to more issues, and a massive breakdown.
That was about 3 years ago.
Since then I've had to slow things down a lot. My doctor has been great, as have some mental health people, however, I've had to complain about some treatment, as the nurse basically told me I was talking shit, and that COVID had made more people think they were unwell mentally (this was witnessed by other people, who have also complained about it), she didn't say that I was one of those, but, the implication was completely that.
Theres a stigma around mental health issues, especially around males, and Norwich video the other day is a great way of highlighting this. However, I firmly believe that if I were female and younger, I would have received a completely different reception from mental health facilitators. But, as a fat, middle aged bloke, I have to fight my way.
My work has suffered, and I try to keep going, but, some days, I'm just mentally exhausted from trying to do a single thing, and can spend a day in bed. Its daft, but, Mary Earps earlier this year summed up how I feel with her FIFA speech "Sometimes success looks like this, collecting trophies, sometimes it's just waking up and putting one step in front of the other."
Collymore!
Grenville Morris
There used to be a relevant thread in the ‘non-football’ sub-forum around this kinda topic and saw the odd post and discussion here and there. It might be good to have one back ongoing.
Could have the first post of that thread with support websites and numbers etc.
What’s silly is that people read things lurking, or they post to a random Forest forum and might not mention things to anyone in “real life”. Need to find the right place for people to reach out for help in their own way.
Could have the first post of that thread with support websites and numbers etc.
What’s silly is that people read things lurking, or they post to a random Forest forum and might not mention things to anyone in “real life”. Need to find the right place for people to reach out for help in their own way.
valspoodle
Steve Chettle
Guess I'm just lucky, never had a problem, go my own sweet way.
But sometimes posts like this make even me stop and think about the other person for a change. Keep it up and think of others, it'll make you feel good, too.
But sometimes posts like this make even me stop and think about the other person for a change. Keep it up and think of others, it'll make you feel good, too.
Captain Sinister
Senior doom Monger
"I've been mad for f***ing years..."
However, despite being mad, I am saner that Hammas, the Israeli government, Putin, and all the other world leaders who should be consigned to the Fletcher Memorial Home for Incurable Wasters of Life and Limb.
However, despite being mad, I am saner that Hammas, the Israeli government, Putin, and all the other world leaders who should be consigned to the Fletcher Memorial Home for Incurable Wasters of Life and Limb.
Notcher
Stuart Pearce
Genuinely sorry to hear about your issues Donny. That's a huge look inside your closet you've given us and I commend you for it. With that and weaving into something Collymore mentioned above, can I ask, did you find it easier to speak so honestly and open to us on this forum than you did to others close to you?
Fawazzock
Jack Burkitt
It can strike any time. Had no issues at all until my late 30s, then had some rough years. Much better now!
No one to talk to... pulled myself out of it with medication, exercise, and time. Would have loved to talk.
No one to talk to... pulled myself out of it with medication, exercise, and time. Would have loved to talk.
This applies to anyone here.
If you’re experiencing any kind of mental health issues or concerns and you need to download, off- load, rant, rave or cry and you don’t know how or where to do it then please PM me.
I can’t offer professional help and I can’t always fix things but I can listen.
If you’re experiencing any kind of mental health issues or concerns and you need to download, off- load, rant, rave or cry and you don’t know how or where to do it then please PM me.
I can’t offer professional help and I can’t always fix things but I can listen.
Likewise.
It‘s good to talk!
It‘s good to talk!
Or if you just want a rant, be welcome, you can have a proper rant in here, if you want?
We all have things we want to rant about, from time to time.
We all have things we want to rant about, from time to time.
Trents
John Robertson
I've a bit of experience on the PTSD side of mental health, as was there a bit a few years back. Some stuff From IRAQ/Afghanistan/Kosovo that makes you wish those Men in Black flashy things were an actual invention. This is over 20 years ago now and I'm very lucky to have been able to shut most of it away, like it was a different person/life somewhat. You can't control dreams though so that's when it catches you off guard now and again.
So many aren't so lucky and can't escape it. I've kept in touch with loads I used to serve with and we try to have reunions when possible. Sadly we've lost a few along the way. What I will say is the support on offer out there is superb nowadays and easily accessible.
Also here to talk if anyone fancies a natter or more than happy meet up at the footy for a moan about Fawaz. It really does help.
So many aren't so lucky and can't escape it. I've kept in touch with loads I used to serve with and we try to have reunions when possible. Sadly we've lost a few along the way. What I will say is the support on offer out there is superb nowadays and easily accessible.
Also here to talk if anyone fancies a natter or more than happy meet up at the footy for a moan about Fawaz. It really does help.
REDDERS78
Jack Armstrong
Okay, I've been meaning to get it off my chest so here goes.
I've been struggling to find a pair of pants big enough to fit my enormous willy in, what advice can you offer?
Carlos
Massive Member
Try to have a look in stores outside of Mothercare mate
Carlos
Massive Member
Joking aside I echo above, anyone struggling a bit and needs a chat or just to offload PM me, I'm always about to listen.
I was always given the best advice though too, we are all happy to listen, but also "make sure your light is on first"
I was always given the best advice though too, we are all happy to listen, but also "make sure your light is on first"